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Low expectations may not be the key to happiness after all



Finland was recently named the happiest country in the world for the sixth year running. A range of theories has been put forward to explain why the Nordic nation continues to rank at the top of the table for happiness, from greater income equality to time spent in nature.


But one Finnish sociology professor credited the country's position to "a cultural orientation that sets realistic limits to one's expectations for a good life". That is, he seems to believe Finnish people are happy because they don't set their expectations too high.

So should we all lower our expectations to be happier? I would argue psychology research suggests the opposite.


High expectations are important because they allow us to dream and create goals to work towards. Through a process called mental contrasting, we create judgements about our expectations of the future and decide which dreams are realistic to pursue and which ones we should let go. When realistic, can serve as a motivating force to make a change and keep us optimistic, so that we keep going in the face of adversity.


However...


Low expectations limit our capacity to develop and grow. Having low expectations that we'll accomplish what we hope to is not a good way to adapt to changes in life, and can lead to feelings of helplessness and despair.


When we have low expectations of success following adversity, we're more likely to give up,

Even when our chances of success are objectively high, we will forego opportunities – perhaps to meet new people – due to our low expectations that things will work out well for us.


While it's useful to set high expectations for ourselves, we also tend to perform better when other people have high expectations of us. This is called the Pygmalion effect.

Our belief that others see us as capable and believe that we can accomplish more than we think we can pushes us to perform better. Likewise, when others have low expectations of us, we generally perform worse.


The Pygmalion effect has been tested extensively in the workplace and education, showing similar results.


When can high expectations be bad?


Setting expectations too high can have negative effects. Imagine you overestimated your skills and challenged yourself too much. Perhaps you started to play Candy Crush on your partner's phone, and their level is way ahead of yours. The mismatch of your skills and this challenge may lead to frustration and even anxiety.


To neutralize this, all you need to do is go back to a level better matched to your skill level – which you find challenging but at which you're capable of achieving high scores to progress in the game. We tend to do the same in real life to keep the equilibrium.


For example, say you're organizing a dinner party for your friends. If you commit to cooking a sophisticated meal that's too challenging, your anxiety may reach such high levels that you can't enjoy your own dinner party.

Instead, you could lower your expectations and prepare a meal that doesn't require as much skill, but still challenges you (and that your friends will no doubt still enjoy).



One of the reasons people may not want to have high expectations is because they want to protect themselves from disappointment when their hopes are not realized, which is a valid concern.


However, learning to manage our emotions when sadness and frustration kick in helps us cope more effectively with adversity.


The pros of high expectations in motivating us to set and achieve goals outweigh the cons, and any "protection" we might get from low expectations.


Considering all this, I think it's too simplistic to believe Finns are happier for this reason.😉

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